My boyfriend wants to break up over too many petty arguments...

If you love him, why do you argue with him over “molehills” that don’t matter to you? Is that how you express love, by fighting over things you just said you don’t even think twice about?

I will answer your question with a question:

That’s a strange way to show you love someone.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

I can’t honestly say I blame him for breaking up with you. Constant fights over things you don’t even care about? That seems like problematic behavior to me.

My boyfriend wants to break up over too many petty arguments. To me, they are molehills because I truly love him & don't really think twice about them. If he loved me would he work through it?

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